Forgiveness is one of the most frequently cited virtues that philosophers, spiritual teachers, and counselors use in their healing practices. Following a brief overview to the importance of forgiveness, a series of experiential activities between you and your partner will explore the following topics: (a) your past history on the concept of forgiveness; (b) your own personal history with forgiveness before your current significant relationship; and (c) forgiveness in your present relationship. Next, we address professional and spiritual resources concerned with spiritual forgiveness and self-forgiveness. The article concludes with additional forgiveness theory, a forgiveness checklist, and a quote from the movie Smoke Signals.
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