Emotion-focused therapy has made major contributions to the field of couple and marital therapy, especially with its emphasis on securely bonded couples. This conceptual/clinical article explores strategies and techniques to enhance sexual desire and satisfaction in securely bonded couples, with special attention to choosing a couple sexual style that facilitates strong, resilient desire. We advocate for both communication and integration between the fields of couple therapy and sex therapy.
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